Passive/Aggressive- Who? Me?
I was getting frustrated by the giant weeds (thorny ferns of some sort) and leaf litter up against the fence of our neighbor across the alley from our garage. His garage is accessed from the street so the only time he even sees the alley is to take out the trash, so I don't really blame him for not keeping it spotless. His fence was falling apart a few years ago and he fixed it by nailing up some boards I was throwing away.
Today I cut the weeds back, raked up the leaf litter and trash, then swept the dirt up. I dumped it all in his trash bin though, filling it halfway up.
Does that show me to be passive/aggressive? Or just a nice neighbor? Or an asshole?
Jay
posted by Jay @ 8:13 PM
10 Comments:
I don't know. I'd thank you, I think, if it was me.
No kidding - you'll do my yardwork and all I have to do is piss you off? Deal!
It's only passive aggressive if you pile the stuff you raked up back in his yard. Or if you are somehow thinking that you doing the yardwork will somehow shame the neighbors to do it themselves.
Throwing it away and not saying anything makes you nice. Maybe a little TOO nice.
Just a passive-aggro asshole.
Hey - welcome back! I hope all is going well. How are the kids?
passive/aggressive? no
a nice neighbor? yes
an asshole? hardly
one who takes pride in his neighbourhood? yes
Welcome back Jay.
You should meet my FIL... he's textbook p/a.
You... not so much. I'd say you're a nice neighbor. If the guy gets po'd that you did that, then you'll know for next time.
Missed you!
You cleaned up his crap, and put it in his trash can, and you think that's passive-aggressive? Huh?
Passive-aggressive would be spreading your neighbor's pile of litter around his yard, and then telling him you saw a stray dog do it. Maybe what you did was a bit "passive," since you should have confronted your neighbor about it, instead of doing it yourself. "Aggressive" would be knocking on your neighbor's door and yelling at him about the problem. The best thing is for you to be assertive, go over and calmly discuss the issue with him, or leave him a polite note about it.
On the other hand, "being an asshole" would be taking dog shit, smearing it on your neighbors front door, and attaching a note that reads:
Since you're already outside cleaning the dog shit off your door, do you mind cleaning up the litter in your alleyway?
Fuck you very much,
Your neighbor
Just saying...
Glad to see back. Do what you can to save your marriage, but make your children a priority. Stick up for yourself, don't be a doormat, but be calm and reasonable. I wish you the best, try to keep your sanity.
I'm thinking all the stress-induced hormones shooting through our veins these days are going to kill us long before we can kill our marriage. Let's just say it ain't no picnic.
Kitti
Welcome back, Jay! I'd just say you're a nice guy who got tired of looking at crap in his neighbor's yard. Wish my neighbor would do that for me! LOL
Kitti, I don't know what's going on, but stress sucks. Whatever's up, I hope it gets better soon.
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